“The main issue with Tinder is that, as its popularity grew, so did its functionality,” one 27-year-old Fab Swingers user tells me. “It went from being ‘the booty call on campus’ to a universal dating app.”
He says that, since Craigslist deleted its personals section last March, users have scattered not only to Fab Swingers but also FetLife and Reddit. He also believes that traditional swinging has dwindled because of generational change: “Swinging isn’t as popular with younger demographics due to poly couples becoming more commonplace. “
At 4 AM, a couple randki mobifriends in their late-30s asks, “Who’s around now SE9 for a 3 sum [sic]?” before giving out their Kik username-an anonymous messenger app used by many Fab Swingers members.
One downside is fakes. Despite most users being verified-if not by others, then by photographing themselves alongside their usernames-thousands are not. If a profile has no verifications and isn’t brand new, something is likely afoot-especially when photos of a beautiful woman or impossibly large dick are involved. These fakes often invite unsuspecting users onto Kik, where they’ll solicit face pics or videos before disappearing, having presumably gotten their kicks.
Though Fab Swingers claims to safeguard against this, Google image-searching someone’s photos before chatting is smart, as pictures are frequently taken from porn sites and social media.
Another downside is the prevalence of unprotected sex, as evidenced not only by photos, but profiles where interests like “bareback” and “cream pies” are explicitly stated. The sharp tip of this iceberg is “breeding,” a growing fetish where people literally aim to conceive a child during no-strings-attached hookups. (more…)